Despite the perfect picture families that always seem to loom over us on television, posters and bill boards, there are many more complexities and dynamics to families than all smiles and laughter.
All families are different, and all families have their own issues, but with the right amount of work and determination, you can make your family life the very best it can be, by developing your relationships and learning more about yourself and your relatives. No one's family life is perfect; but you can make yours good, so why not?
1.Understand your family well.
If you don't then there can be many misunderstandings and fights. Be with them whenever you can and get to know them better. A lot of families now don't get to know each other too well because they're too busy. Plan some family time, like, a movie, or a family game, or even as little as eating dinner together.
2.Respect your family.
Your children, your wife/husband are now yours but remember at the end of the day they are also humans. They also have an opinion or suggestion. Sometimes it can be bad or good. Never be angry with someone's opinion, they have their opinions, and no one's perfect.
3.Give time.
No one wants to be ignored just for some meeting or work. Give time to each and every one of them so you can understand every individual properly and this can prevent any misunderstandings in the future.
4.Treat everyone as equal.
Whether its your maid or step child, they also deserve love and affection from you as you deserve from your wife/husband or from your own child. Treat everyone like you would want to be treated, and getting along with your family should be easy
5.Never scream or shout at anyone.
This can create hatred for you in their hearts. By simply making them understand can do a lot. Why waste energy when you can do it calmly?
Try not to fight with your siblings. Fighting can tear your relationship apart and you'll regret it when you get older. Treasure the time you have with your siblings, you can't get it back.
6.Never discriminate.
7.Learn to compromise.
When you or someone else in your family wants the total opposite of each other, find a way to work it out to give you all what you want.
8.Help each other.
When you see your sibling or parent needs help, help them. Doing little things such as holding the door for them, or helping someone with homework.
9.Organizing surprise birthday parties and celebrating any individual's achievements can really help.
10.Avoid using offensive and abusive words against each other.
11.Sometimes teenagers can feel sad or lonely.
First ask them about it and if they don't want to share then its OK. It's just hormones. If you think that something is really bad, ask their close friends and help him/her.
12.Never ever break any promise.
This can hurt them or make them feel that you are a liar and every time will break promises.
13.Learn to forgive.
14.Don't scold too much.
Scolding can be good for them but never overdo it.
15.Make them realize in an easy way.
If someone in your family has done something wrong or have betrayed your trust, make them realize their mistake in an easy way.
Tips:-
*Compromise is the most valuable tool you have.
*Don't put everything down to hormones. If your teenager feels reluctant to talk to you, he or she may be upset about something or being bullied. Ask if everything is okay and win over their trust.
*When someone ask you to do his/her work try to do it at that time. Don't postpone it.
*If the work is really important then try to make them understand and promise about next time.
*Always learn to forgive when you get into a fight with your parents. Just tell them sorry, kiss them, hug them, and make the know how much you love them.
*Don't upset them by telling them you don't belong in the family or no one loves you. Apologize to them no matter how bad the scolding gets and hug or kiss them. They will calm down.
Tips for Better Family Communication:
Do you regularly get together to talk with your family about problems or the day’s events? Or is your idea of family communication nodding to one another as you pass each other on the way to the bathroom? Conversation is the key to any strong relationship, but family communication is especially important. Want to improve your family’s communication skills? Try implementing these simple steps.
1. Create opportunities for talking.
It’s no secret that Americans are overworked, overcommitted and overscheduled. Parents rush home from work to to take them to soccer practice, piano lessons and Girl Scout meetings, all before hitting the drive-through window to pick up fast food for dinner. Mix in kids who’d rather text their friends than chat with Mom or Dad, and we have a family communication crisis.
So what can you do? Make time for talking by reducing the number of activities your family is involved in each week the time it frees up for communication will be invaluable. And if you do find yourself in the car running from place to place, make a point to turn off the radio, the cell phones and the personal game players, and use that opportunity to catch up on the day’s activities.
2. Insist on family meals.
In addition to bringing everyone together for a wrap-up of the day’s activities, insisting on a few standing family meals creates ritual and routine that kids come to expect and look forward to. Use the family dinner table as an opportunity to share what’s going on in family members’ lives.
3.Go on individual dates with your children.
Spending time with each of your children lets them know that they matter and aren’t getting lost in the hubbub of a busy day or large family. Older teens might enjoy going out for a hamburger or a latte at their favorite coffee place.
Younger children often enjoy going to the supermarket, especially when you let them select their favorite cereal or special dessert. Don’t forget your spouse or the older family members who live near you. Regular date nights for couples and lunches with aging parents keeps those relationships healthy, as well.
4. Remember the 80/20 rule.
When trying to improve any relationship, listening is far more important than talking, so when it comes to family communication, listen four times longer than you speak. Likewise, think twice about what you say before you say it. Sometimes a parent’s first reaction is to rant and scream, especially to negative news. Do your best to avoid this, and if you do verbally explode before your child is finished, apologize quickly and assure him or her that you’re now ready to listen.
5. Use technology to your advantage.
If the family computer’s been relegated to homework duties or surfing the Web, why not put it to work by creating a family newsletter that you publish monthly, just for your immediate family? Ask everyone in the family to contribute "articles" and information about themselves, then print out a copy for each person and hand deliver it.
or maybe you could create a family Web site or blog. This would be especially helpful to families that find keeping in touch more difficult as the kids grow up and move away. Or put your texting abilities to work to let your loved ones know you’re thinking about them. If your son is facing a big test one afternoon, for instance, send him a text message at lunch letting him know you’re behind him.
6. Create family traditions.
Tucking the kids into bed at night, setting up a family movie night, attending religious services or creating special holiday treats are all examples of family traditions. Family members come to expect and appreciate these traditions, seeing them as opportunities to come together as a unit. If your family is short on traditions, there’s no reason you can’t start some now. Why not set up a bowling night once a month? Or grow a family garden? Or visit the same spot every year for summer vacation?
Maintaining positive family communications benefits your family in so many ways. Children feel comfortable sharing their problems with parents, reducing the risk of peers having an undue influence on their lives. Parents remain connected and intimate with each other and their children, strengthening the family bonds. And all family members develop effective communication styles that can improve the quality of their relationships beyond the family home. Why not start talking today?
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